Top 10 Signs You Are In The Friend Zone

Love it or hate it, Netflix and chill is here to stay. Among consenting adults, “come over to my place to watch a movie” more than implies a chance to get intimate. The lights are down low, you’re together on a couch... you can’t ask for a better time to make a move! But if the full 90 minutes go by and you don’t get so much as a shoulder graze, you’re in a bad way, my friend. You don’t even know what the movie was about, cause you were too busy watching your crush and plotting your move. If you can’t read the signs there, maybe find a better partner with whom to appreciate cinema.

So you know the fam-jam; this might be a good sign, but if you’re on a first name basis with mama bear and the family all knows youinside out, maybe not. You may even think it’s cute when granny asks when the two of you are finally going to get together. Wrong again! It’s bad. It means he or she sees you as a dependable, safe, and unassuming friend to bring around without any risk of making it weird for his or her family. And, they expect you to stay that way. Like we said… bad!

So you’re into this person. You’ve put in some thought, and you think that the two of you would be great together. Problem is, they thinkyou’d be great with they’re “super-awesome” friend. It sucks! Sure, there are plenty of fish in the sea, but the one you’re into is trying to set you up with a completely different fish. Now, if you’re into sea creatures, that’s just peachy! But for us normal folk who are looking for significant others to share long walks on the beach with, it’s definitely not a good sign.

So it’s time to make your move! You invite your crush for a super casual hangout sesh in a romantic but not explicit place. You send a cool but sincere text inviting them, and then you wait. Hours and days go by. This should be your first red flag. Then you get a text back saying something to the effect of: “Ummmmm, yeah, I might be able to make it!” We’re not saying anyone should be jumping through hoops for you, but they should at least put in the effort and want to see you.

This goes for everyone in your life, but if the person you’re into only calls when things are bad or they need someone or something, maybe it’s time to take stock of what your relationship really means. Also, if they come to you complaining about someone else in their life that isn’t you, that’s even worse. Seriously mojo-bros and gals, you’re worth more than this: being a human punching bag for someone to use for venting just sucks. A real relationship means sharing the good times and the bad.

You ever noticed how when your crush walks into a room, you stand up a little straighter, speak a little clearer and maybe try out some of those manners everyone’s been talking about? You even take the time to pick some clean clothes and make your hair look relatively presentable. Well if they’re into you, they’ll do the same. If they show up to meet you in sweatpants and laid all the way back, without make-up or with unkempt hair, that means you’re not worth getting spruced up for. And you are, aren’t you?

How you label your relationship is between you and your significant other, and frankly it’s a topic for a whole other video. But if they take the time to do it before you’ve even entered the relationship, that’s a truly awful sign. Maybe your crush has outright explained toyou that the two of you are just friends. If so, that’s pretty much the end of the video for you. Or maybe they casually introduce you thatway to friends and family. Either way, them calling you a friend pretty much summarizes the extent of your relationship.

Physical contact, or touching people, is a great sign of affection. That’s why mommy wouldn’t stop hugging you. Even a simple handshake shows respect among acquaintances. If your crush makes excuses to touch you, like grazing your arm after one of your hilarious jokes, or holding your hand after a high-five, that’s what the pros call an “indicator of interest.” In other words, it means you’rein, or on, or whatever. But if not, maybe they’re just shy. Or maybe they hate you. Maybe somewhere in between? Think about it.

You’ve got a plan: take them out, get some one-on-one time and slowly convince them that you are right for them! One snag: they keep bringing someone else! Not good, mojoholics, not good… When someone’s into you, they should have the same goal as you, which is to casually display their hidden values to you one-on-one, fall in love, and eventually get to baby-making and home co-ownership. Well, maybe not, but you get the idea. Bringing a third wheel, suggesting they don’t want to spend time with you alone in public, is a pretty clear sign they don’t want to be romantic.

Before we break some hearts with our top pick, here are a few honorable mentions.

They Don’t Sit Next to You on an Empty Couch

He Calls You by Your Last Name

She Doesn’t Laugh at Your Jokes

They Un-Tag Themselves from Facebook Posts with You

You’d think this one’s obvious, but it’s not. The amount of guys and gals just waiting for their crush to leave the person they’re with is plentiful. And that waiting? It’s pointless. That only happens in the movies… unfortunately. You may have been able to convince yourself that they’re just with someone else to make you jealous… But this is one of those moments where WatchMojo gives you some of that tough love. If the person you’re into is into anyone that isn’t you, there’s only one reason for it… they don’t want to be with you. Sorry. Our advice? Go find someone who does.

Do you agree with our list? Are they just waiting for the right time or are they just not into you? Or have you got someone in the friend-zone? For more useful tips and general quality of life improvements in the form of top 10s published every day, be sure to subscribe to WatchMojo.com.