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Top 10 Reasons Noah from The Notebook Is THE WORST

VO: Phoebe de Jeu WRITTEN BY: Spencer Sher
He may be a heartthrob, but there are a few reasons Noah from The Notebook is the worst. We've classified “The Notebook” as one of the most romantic films, but while the narrative works as a whole, when you translate Noah's behavior to the real world, it admittedly becomes quite problematic. So let's take a look at some of the issues. MsMojo ranks the reasons Noah from The Notebook is the Worst. What do you think about Noah? Let us know in the comments!

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Nostalgia can be deceiving. Welcome to MsMojo, and today we’re counting down our picks for the Top 10 Reasons Noah from The Notebook is the WORST.

For this list, we’re taking a look at Noah from “The Notebook”. We've classified “The Notebook” as one of the most romantic films, but while the narrative works as a whole, when you translate Noah's behavior to the real world, it admittedly becomes quite problematic. So let's take a look at some of the issues.

#10: Noah's Unrealistic, Unhealthy View of Love

No relationship is perfect. However, “The Notebook” and its protagonist would have you believe that a relationship is imperfect unless it’s filled with grand romantic gestures. We get it, it’s a movie, but movies should still be aware of the message they are sending to viewers. Viewers are impressionable (especially teens), so when they see Noah hanging from a Ferris wheel or writing Allie letters every day for a year, they may come to expect the same from someone who “really” loves them. Sadly, most relationships do not revolve around gestures such as these. As such, Noah’s actions paint an unrealistic picture of how a real relationship functions.

#9: He Offers to Change His Entire Personality to Get Allie

One adage about relationships often rises above the rest: just be yourself. You’ve heard this for years from your parents, friends and teachers. However, Noah takes a very different approach in his pursuit of Allie. During one of their earliest encounters, he quips, “I could be pensive, smart, superstitious, brave? I can be light on my feet, I could be whatever you want.” It was at this moment that Allie should have told him to just be himself. Offering to change your entire personality in order to win the affections of someone else is wrong on so many levels. You’re essentially putting yourself in a lose-lose scenario, because even if you land the guy/girl, it’s at the expense of being true to yourself.

#8: He Convinces Allie to Choose Him over Lon

At one point in “The Notebook,” Allie is struggling to decide which man to choose. Should she go with Noah, the poor boy from the wrong side of the tracks with no prospects? Or Lon, the wealthy lawyer who is well educated, handsome and frankly, quite nice. Oh, and he’s also her fiancé! Despite his various shortcomings, Noah convinces Allie to leave her betrothed. This harkens back to our first entry, with Noah once again perpetuating an unrealistic view of love. He convinces Allie to follow her heart instead of her brain, but do you really want someone that pushy and insistent? There’s something to be said for Lon, who’s forgiving but ultimately only wants her if she’s sure she wants him too.

#7: That Boob Grab

During one of their make out sessions, Noah gropes Allie’s breast without her permission. While some of you may think that this is no big deal, we have a problem with it. It’s easy to get lost in the idea that Noah and Allie are star-crossed lovers and that every action they take is justified because it’s part of their earth-shattering and passionate love connection. However, this boob grab was totally unsolicited and obviously unwanted, as the moment Noah does it, Allie stops kissing him and looks away. So much for the old “southern gentleman” trope!

#6: The Time He Laid Down in the Middle of the Street

Ryan Gosling’s devilish good looks and chiseled bod are a distraction. There, we said it. Think about it, if you were walking with a guy and he suddenly asked you to lie down in the middle of the street with him, you’d at best raise an eyebrow and at worst run off screaming. The cons outweigh the pros in this situation pretty heavily. For starters, it’s nighttime when Noah pulls this quote on quote “romantic gesture”, so the likelihood of the two characters getting run over by a driver who can’t see them is pretty high. However, the real problem is Noah’s insistence that Allie join him. Just let the girl think for herself, dude!

#5: He Builds Allie’s Dream Home Without Consulting Her

In her 2018 Bustle article “Noah From 'The Notebook' Is Actually Really Toxic”, Sadie Trombetta describes Noah as having a “unhealthy and unwanted obsession” with Allie. To illustrate her point, she discusses at length Noah’s decision to buy and restore the home he and Allie attempted to make love in years earlier. It should go without saying, but this is an insanely creepy move on Noah’s part. He tailors the house to her specifications and once it’s completed, presents it to her. Imagine a guy who you had a relationship with years ago did this. Would you run into his arms? Or in the opposite direction, screaming “help!”

#4: His Persistent Letters

We had a hard time deciding what was worse: building your crush’s dream home without her permission or writing her a letter every day for a year. In the end, we went with the latter. Noah’s 365 letters demonstrate a compulsive need to be in constant contact with Allie, even though her parents have made it clear they want nothing to do with him. However, the bigger issue at play here is the fact that Noah never received a response. Viewers knew that Allie’s mother was hiding the letters, but Noah didn’t. So, from his perspective he’s just churning out letter after letter, day after day, for a woman who never responds. If that isn’t creepy, we don’t know what is.

#3: The Constant Fighting

One of the biggest flaws in Noah and Allie’s relationship that often gets overlooked, is the fact that they fight like cats and dogs. This isn’t lost on Duke (aka older Noah), who points out that “they didn’t agree on much. In fact, they rarely agreed on anything.” Uh, that’s a big red flag, don’t you think? It isn’t just verbal spats that they get into either. At one point, they get into a physical altercation in the middle of the street! Duke explains away this issue by stating that they made it work because “they were crazy about each other.” Hmm, not exactly an ironclad justification for the deep-seated emotional issues, Duke.

#2: He Manipulates Allie

Noah convinces Allie to do things she doesn’t want to do numerous times throughout the film. While some might view his actions as “gentle encouragement”, we see a bigger issue. The truth is that even when Noah tries to convince Allie to do the things she wants to do; his goal is still to get her to like him. For example, when he ignore her wishes – but more on that in moment. Allie was going to drop out of school to be with Noah, despite only having known him for a couple of months. Did he try to dissuade her? Of course not! Because Noah doesn’t actually care about Allie, so much as he cares about her being with him.

#1: His Refusal to Take ‘No’ for an Answer

Noah’s biggest flaw is his inability to take “no” for an answer. Allie is constantly rebuffing his advances throughout the film, but he just keeps on coming. Framed differently, Noah could be viewed as an obsessive and dangerous stalker. The most obvious example that Noah is mentally unstable is when he threatens to kill himself unless Allie agrees to go out with him. This puts Allie is a dangerous predicament, as her refusal could lead to Noah’s death. The movie makes him out to be an adorable scamp, when really, he is a textbook manipulator, perpetuating the idea that women are responsible for the actions of men. Sorry if we burst your bubble.

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