Top 10 Signs He's Just Not that Into You

Usually when you’re out on a date, the guy will at least try to be a gentleman and pay for… everything; or you both pay for yourselves. However, there’s a chance you’ll end up with a guy who’s “short on cash,” which means you’ll have to pay for both of you. It’s nice to offer to pay for your date once in awhile – just make sure he returns the favor. Treating your guy to a night out is sweet; him treating you like you’re his personal piggy bank? Not so much. Also, make sure he’s ACTUALLY short on cash. If Mr. Cheapskate IS taking you for a ride, he’d better learn that what goes around comes around… not that we’d encourage it.

Picture this: you’ve had a long day at work or around the home, and you’re hoping for a little quiet time with your man. You want discuss each other’s days… but he wants to skip all that and get physically intimate. A little kissing or sex isn’t bad – as long as it’s not a PDA, but what’s the rush? Getting there is half the fun, and a good headspace can be the difference between mediocre and unforgettable sex. By getting intimate on an emotional level first, you can all but guarantee that sparks will fly later. If your date would rather go directly to point B, do they really care about satisfying BOTH of you?

You two have been dating for quite some time, and you thought things were going great; but then, he drops the bomb – he’s just not ready for a serious relationship. To be fair, it takes a lot to fully commit to a relationship, and you don’t want to rush into anything. That being said, if it’s going well, you’ve made your intentions clear and he still says “no”, it could mean that he wants to see other people, or simply doesn’t see the potential for anything long-term with you. You don’t want to put pressure on the guy, but you also don’t want to waste your time on someone who will never be able to commit.

In any relationship, it’s healthy to spend some time apart. Nobody likes a couple that’s attached at the hip! But it is odd if he NEVER lets you meet his buddies. If it’s his more obnoxious pals, he may be doing you a favor; but if it’s the friends that you actually MIGHT get along with, why wouldn’t he invite you every now and then? You might think he’s embarrassed of you, but you shouldn’t jump to conclusions... unless you GAVE him a reason to be embarrassed. He may just be a man who needs a lot of “guy time”. Then again, he could intentionally be keeping you separate from the rest of his life.

This sign is not only obvious… it’s sleazy and disrespectful. You two could be out on a date... when you notice he’s seriously chatting up the waitress or eyeing the girl who just walked in. Sometimes he’s subtle about it, other times… not so much. It makes you wonder… what would he do if you weren’t around at that moment? Unfortunately, his constant window-shopping may be a sign that he wants to see other women, or at least, is still tempted by the possibility. If a genuine interest in being exclusive is a one-way street... why not give him his wish and kick him to the curb?

Actions speak louder than words. You two could talk about making plans – plans for a date night, your next celebration, even big plans for the future. In the end, however, all that planning and talking proves to be nothing but talk; he makes some excuse and fails to follow through. If he can’t make a date because something came up, the least he can do is call you ahead of time. If he’s leaving it to the last minute? That’s not rescheduling -- he might as well be standing you up. It’s not like you’re asking him to lasso the moon for you... You just want him to commit to the plans he makes rather than constantly disappointing you.

Getting to know each other can be one of the best parts of a relationship – learning each other’s fears and desires, and building trust by confiding in one another. But how should you interpret it if he seems content to take you at face value, and never asks about your life? He might feel insecure about getting that personal - or he just LOVES talking about himself more. It’s hard to have a heart-to-heart conversation if he was never interested in talking to begin with. What’s more, you’ll probably wind up having to remind him of things he would’ve remembered if he’d listened the first time. He can’t really “love you for you” if he never bothers to figure out who that is.

We’ve said it before, and we’re saying it again – communication is key to a strong relationship. Therefore, if you make plans with your guy or just send him a message asking how his day was, it shouldn’t take THAT long for him to respond. Is he really so busy that he can’t send a quick reply letting you know what’s up? Now, it may not be as bad as it sounds, but the unknown drives you crazy – not knowing if something came up… not knowing if he’s pulling away. You don’t want to come across as clingy, but is having him check in once in awhile so much to ask?

You know what’s annoying? He rarely calls or texts you; but when he does… it’s usually for a favor. Requests for you to pick up some dinner on the way home, a ride to and from work, or money feel like the only times you hear from him anymore. It’s nice to be needed, but you’re not some pack mule; and wouldn’t it be nicer if he called just to say hi or ask about your day? In his defense, maybe he knows how busy you are and doesn’t want to call or text without good reason, but everyone appreciates a quick chat every now and then. Thankfully, you’ll always have your girlfriends for that.

You’ve been dating this guy for a while, and things have gone unbelievably south. You finally break up with him, or make clear your intention to do so… and he comes crawling back. He’s suddenly had a change of heart and claims that things will be different. Sure, he could be sincere... or he just can’t stand seeing you move on without him, regardless of how you feel about it. Either way, you’ve got a difficult choice to make – do you take him back and risk repeating the cycle, or say goodbye for real and never look back? If he really cares about you, he’ll show it by respecting your decision either way.

Do you agree with our list? Can you think of any other clear signs that a guy’s just not that into you? For more unrequited Top 10s posted every day, be sure to subscribe to MsMojo.